Чувство любви

Я всегда с тобой, вплоть до конца времен. И все же Я не навязываю тебе Мою волю - никогда.

Я выбираю для тебя твое высшее благо, но прежде этого, Я выбираю твою собственную волю. И это лучший критерий любви.

Если Я хочу для тебя того, что ты хочешь для себя, Я действительно люблю тебя. Если Я хочу для тебя того, что Я хочу для тебя, Я люблю Себя через тебя.

Такой критерий поможет тебе определить, любят ли тебя и по-настоящему ли любишь ты. Ибо любовь ничего не хочет для себя, но стремится только осуществить выборы возлюбленного. (Уолш "Беседы с Богом" т.3)

Высший выбор для Себя становится высшим выбором для другого, когда ты осознаешь, что вы есть одно (Уолш "Беседы с Богом" т.1)

Любовь - естественное чувство. Когда ребенок может ее выражать и получать свободно и естественно, без ограничений и условий, без запретов и смущения, он не нуждается больше ни в чем. Ведь радость свободно выражаемой и получаемой любви самодостаточна. Но любовь, которой ставились условия и
ограничения, которая деформирована правилами и аконами, ритуалами и запретами, любовь, которую контролируют, которой манипулируют и которую сдерживают, становится неестественной.

Дети, которых заставляют почувствовать, что их естественная любовь - плохое чувство, что ее выражать нельзя и что, фактически, им не следует ее даже испытывать, став взрослыми, будут иметь трудности с правильным отношением к любви.

Постоянно подавляемая любовь становится страстью к обладанию (чувством собственности), очень
неестественным чувством. Из-за страсти к обладанию происходят убийства. Начинаются войны, гибнут
народы. (Уолш "Беседы с Богом" т.3)

There is nothing worse than possessiveness that you can do, that you are capable of: reducing a being to a thing. And that's what possession is.

Only things can be possessed; beings cannot be possessed.
You can have a communion with a being.
You can share your love, your poetry, your beauty, your body, your mind.
You can share but you cannot do business.
You cannot bargain.
You cannot possess a man or a woman.
But everybody is trying to do that all over the earth.

You try to possess - it is naturally impossible, it cannot happen in the very nature of things. Then there is misery. The more you try to possess a person, the more that person tries to become independent of you, because every person has a birthright to be free, to be himself or herself.

The only sacred space in the true sense is the privacy of a person - his or her independence, the beinghood. If you love a person you will never trespass. You will never try to be a detective, peeping into the privacy of the other person. You will respect the privacy of the other person. But just look at the so called lovers - husbands and wives, boyfriends and girlfriends. All they are doing, around the clock, is finding ways to trespass, to enter into the private world of the other person.

They don't want the other person to have any privacy. Why? If the person has independence, privacy, individuality, they are afraid. The person tomorrow may not love them -- because love is not something stagnant. It is a moment, it is nothing to do with permanency. It may continue for eternity, but basically love is a phenomenon of the moment. If it happens again in the next moment you are blessed. If it does not happen you should be thankful that at least it did happen before.

Remain open: perhaps it may happen again -- if not with this person, then with another person. The question is not persons, the question is of love. Love should remain flowing, it should not be stopped. But in their stupidity people start thinking, "If this person goes out of my hands then I am going to starve my whole life without love." And he does not know that by trying to hold this person permanently in his captivity, he will starve. He will not get love. You cannot get love from a slave.

Lovers love only while they are not yet in a fixed relationship. As the relationship settles, love disappears. Once the relationship is fixed, instead of love, something else takes place: possessiveness. They still go on calling it love, but you cannot deceive existence. Just by calling it love you cannot change anything. It is now hate, not love. It is fear, not love. It is adjustment, not love. It is compromise, not love. It can be anything -- but not love. (http://www.messagefrommasters.com/Shiva-Shakti/Possessiveness.htm)

Ownership is actually a double slavery. The one whose master we become certainly becomes our slave, but we also become his slave. The master is also the slave of his slave. However much the husband becomes the master over the wife, he becomes her slave too. And however great an empire the emperor might own, he becomes a complete slave to it. He also becomes a slave to fear, because those we make dependent upon us also become afraid, and then opposition and rebellion towards us begins. And they also want to make us dependent.

The one we enslave makes us a slave too. The possessor becomes the possessed. Non-possessiveness arises by searching with the question, "How do I become my own master?" (Ошо центр http://articles.timesofindia.indiatimes.com/2012-02-24/holistic-living/31094416_1_master-slave-ownership)